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25-06-2006, 10:36
Morning all.
I'm sure there's quite a few people nursing a hangover this morning - me and some friends included. I think one's got work this morning at 9am - ouch.
Went to a friend's birthday yesterday and a good friend got a little to drunk, and well, turned a little violent and all abusive to people - me included. Some of the things he said were a bit, well, tactless and offensive.
Also, he threatened break some stuff belonging to the host of said party, who is also a good friend of mine and his (well, he was very "out" of it at the time - I don't think in all of our time we've not seen him like this; and if he did I very much doubt if she'd forgive him if he did, even as a joke and it would wreck her day.). Me and another girl (who is also a maet of mine and his and of the host) had to gently push him away from the items - I think it was better safe than sorry; although deep down I wouldn't think he'd do what he was going to do to his best mate, he was out of it and unpredictable).
I and this other girl had a quiet word in the ear of the host, and in turn, she wanted to have a quiet word in the ear of the drunken mate as a friend to friend thing (not confrontational) - however, he took this in the wrong way and refused to speak to her and blamed me and t'other girl for saying about it.
Towards the end he felt very bad after this and was quite upset about himself - not just about this 'incident' but in general, and he kept on putting himself down a lot.
I'm going to see him on Monday and I don't know what to say or approach this. Should I get him to apologise for what he did first?
Should I apologise for what I did, and was I wrong to do it?
Should I have taken offence to what he said to me when he was drunk, or should I just chalk it off because he was in the state he was (he wouldn't normally say this sort of stuff if he were sober ... or is there something else he thinks about me)?
Any advice about how to go about this would be appreciated. And what would you do if you were in my situation? :tu:
As to my personal take on this - alcohol can cause people to do stupid things that they never did before. It can turn them into Jekyll and Hyde. People can get hurt, even if it wasn't "intended".
I'm sure there's quite a few people nursing a hangover this morning - me and some friends included. I think one's got work this morning at 9am - ouch.
Went to a friend's birthday yesterday and a good friend got a little to drunk, and well, turned a little violent and all abusive to people - me included. Some of the things he said were a bit, well, tactless and offensive.
Also, he threatened break some stuff belonging to the host of said party, who is also a good friend of mine and his (well, he was very "out" of it at the time - I don't think in all of our time we've not seen him like this; and if he did I very much doubt if she'd forgive him if he did, even as a joke and it would wreck her day.). Me and another girl (who is also a maet of mine and his and of the host) had to gently push him away from the items - I think it was better safe than sorry; although deep down I wouldn't think he'd do what he was going to do to his best mate, he was out of it and unpredictable).
I and this other girl had a quiet word in the ear of the host, and in turn, she wanted to have a quiet word in the ear of the drunken mate as a friend to friend thing (not confrontational) - however, he took this in the wrong way and refused to speak to her and blamed me and t'other girl for saying about it.
Towards the end he felt very bad after this and was quite upset about himself - not just about this 'incident' but in general, and he kept on putting himself down a lot.
I'm going to see him on Monday and I don't know what to say or approach this. Should I get him to apologise for what he did first?
Should I apologise for what I did, and was I wrong to do it?
Should I have taken offence to what he said to me when he was drunk, or should I just chalk it off because he was in the state he was (he wouldn't normally say this sort of stuff if he were sober ... or is there something else he thinks about me)?
Any advice about how to go about this would be appreciated. And what would you do if you were in my situation? :tu:
As to my personal take on this - alcohol can cause people to do stupid things that they never did before. It can turn them into Jekyll and Hyde. People can get hurt, even if it wasn't "intended".