Any News on

Florence · 04-06-2006, 12:55

I have been wondering how Stuartbe is he hasn't been back on the forums since he found out the thread for advice was removed. I am worried as I feel the way he was it would have been better to leave his lifeline and remove all posts after and including the one informing us that he was alright.

I am worried for him and would like to know he is alright?

Timeless Stew · 04-06-2006, 14:54

It appears that his account has been deleted. Furthermore look

http://www.cableforum.co.uk/board/sh...t=47932&page=6

etcarmageddon welcomes a "stuart" back. Anybody can shed some light?

Kliro · 04-06-2006, 14:58

Looks like he can still post...

04-06-2006, 15:21

The last post from stuartbe that I read didnt sound very good (actually, he sounded real desperate). Although he did mention that he was going to stay with a family member. I do hope he's ok. Has anybody heard from him since that post?

**Graham M** · 04-06-2006, 15:24

Maybe Stuart re-registered and made that post and got deleted again *shrugs* maybe a member of the team could shed some light though I'd understand if otherwise?

Florence · 04-06-2006, 15:25

That is why I am worried wish he would get intouch and let us know he is safe.

Any mods still have a way to contact him MSN or something to find out he is alright.

04-06-2006, 15:29

Yeah that last thread he posted over a few hrs was real worrying, I had a read while doing a night shift at work but it had been deleted by the morning.

Druchii · 04-06-2006, 15:29

Read his last post, it was desperate, read and saved his 46 page thread, that got worse over time, but the information in it was about him being found with a small breakdwon or something.

He should be with a family member now, and i reckon he'll be just fine in a few weeks.

Chimaera · 04-06-2006, 15:39

Yep - he's fine. Well sort of. I'm in contact with him, I spoke to him last week (before all this escalated) and I've had emails from him - the last one was yesterday.
I should be in contact with him later - I'll tell him he's got another thread!

**Mick** · 04-06-2006, 15:45

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Originally Posted by Florence

I feel the way he was it would have been better to leave his lifeline.

I don't Florence - for the simple reason and I don't mean to sound as if I couldn't of cared less which isn't the case, however, that thread was becoming more and more intense and we were having to pay more attention to that thread than any other thread and this isn't fair for both Stuart and other members. Stuart needs a lot of help and he isn't going to get it by visiting this forum or any internet forum. He needs the physical contact from a human being to counsel him and talk to him, you cannot get any emotional comfort from words on a screen, better than you can than someone sat, one-to-one with you.

At the end of the day, there is only so much we or any one of us can do, we cannot have a thread which dominates and takes precedence over anything and everything else on this forum. It was quite obvious that after 600+ posts that existed in that thread, Stuart wasn't feeling any better, and from his last postings which only few members saw will probably agree with me, he appeared to be much worse off. You have to ask was is it doing more harm than good? .... Looking at it from a long term period, rather than a short one, I would say it wasn't doing Stuart any real favours.

04-06-2006, 15:54

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Stuart wasn't feeling any better, and from his last postings which only few members saw will probably agree with me, he appeared to be much worse off.

Agreed

Druchii · 04-06-2006, 15:57

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Originally Posted by gaffer_gump

Agreed

Seconded too. Shame as everyone did indeed try.

**Maggy J** · 04-06-2006, 15:59

I said right from the beginning that Stu need a doctor more than he needed us.He is very ill and needs professional help.We are not equipped to help him at CF.

The best way to help Stu is for all of us who have some other form of contact with him is to send him our regards at intervals and let him know he is not forgotten.

04-06-2006, 16:11

I personally think Stu should have just spoken to a few people he knew he could trust on here rather than in open forum. I know from first handle experience as do most of us how painful things can get in life.Stu is in a mess and does need help but he needs 1 to 1 councilling not 1 to 100's as differing opinions and advice will only lead to confusion. I wish you well Stu im sure you will read these posts but if not if someone close to him could pass my thoughts and wishes on.But I feel this should be a chosen few not a whole lot of us as I seriously dont think it help

**Mick** · 04-06-2006, 16:15

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

I said right from the beginning that Stu need a doctor more than he needed us.He is very ill and needs professional help.We are not equipped to help him at CF.

I don't know of anyone who is trained and or has qualifications to deal with this on the forum. Even so, I would say it was impossible to counsel someone through a computer screen - this has to be treated in a sensitive way. Stu's craving for comfort from more and more people on this forum was getting more and more intense. Stu needs that human contact, one-to-one support and as I said personally to the rest of the team, he will not ever get this on an internet forum for very obvious reasons, this being, that you cannot assess someones actual emotional needs without actually being there to see them face to face.