Bullying

[akane1984]

Hi i posted awhile ago that my younger brother was getting bullied in school, it hasn't stopped brother comes home in state most days.

One of the bullies lives in our next street and even trys to get to me when i am out and about now am 22 so can't really do anything about this and it leaves me feeling useless to my brother. . i have had words with the one in next street but those words seem to be falling on deaf ears.

the other 2/3 that bully him in the school dont live locally therefore ive never seen them. as for the school they are still NO help in this matter.

can anyone offer advice.

[Ramrod]

Bullying at school is what got me into karate. Once I started taking lessons the bullying stopped. He has to fight back....

[Paulie]

Tell the school that you will let the local papers know about their failing to do anything about the matter. Also (not sure in Belfast) but you could ring ofsted and ask them about what to do.

[bopdude]

Originally Posted by Ramrod

Bullying at school is what got me into karate. Once I started taking lessons the bullying stopped. He has to fight back....

Agreed, time to stand up against these creeps there are bullying help-lines ( google ) if he needs to talk to someone outside the family, and as Rammy says, get him into a martial art, it didn't do us any harm

Keep on at the school, make an appointment to see them, make another one, then another one and yer you guessed it another one if needed.

Once the kids know the school wont allow it then it should be better for all.

Beating the bullies about the head will make you feel better but it really anit gonna help.

Altho they can't stop it outside the gates so some kind of self defence lessons at the local center might be worth looking in to, they are great for the confidence and making proper friends.

[Mick]

Originally Posted by akane1984

Hi i posted awhile ago that my younger brother was getting bullied in school, it hasn't stopped brother comes home in state most days.

One of the bullies lives in our next street and even trys to get to me when i am out and about now am 22 so can't really do anything about this and it leaves me feeling useless to my brother. . i have had words with the one in next street but those words seem to be falling on deaf ears.

the other 2/3 that bully him in the school dont live locally therefore ive never seen them. as for the school they are still NO help in this matter.

can anyone offer advice.

Are your mum and dad doing anything? They should contact the school head, the school should and has to do something about it! Before it really gets out of hand.

The bullying sounds quite serious, when you say your brother comes home in a state all the time, this sounds like a physical form of bullying and I would contact the Police, there are laws that they can use against pupils of 10 and over which are laws against assault or harassment.

I think its absolutely brilliant that he has a brother like you that looks out for him. I have several younger brothers and one older one and would die to protect any of them. We are a close family unit with very strong bonds.

[orangebird]

Originally Posted by akane1984

Hi i posted awhile ago that my younger brother was getting bullied in school, it hasn't stopped brother comes home in state most days.

One of the bullies lives in our next street and even trys to get to me when i am out and about now am 22 so can't really do anything about this and it leaves me feeling useless to my brother. . i have had words with the one in next street but those words seem to be falling on deaf ears.

the other 2/3 that bully him in the school dont live locally therefore ive never seen them. as for the school they are still NO help in this matter.

can anyone offer advice.

Poor sod. He's lucky to have a brother like tyou looking out for him. I'd have kicked the little ****ers heads in.

[akane1984]

kickin heads in has crossed my mind but i got to be sensible am 22 and legally be very wrong to do anything. thanks for advice so far i will look up numbers for him as he finds it hard to talk to my mum n dad and i get impression he never tells me everything.

see in house or known to my friends my brother is tough big mouthed wee joker always playing around with my mates who like and get on with him so it surprises me that he is letting these guys bully him. ive told him on many occasions that sooner or later the only resort may be to turn round and smack one of them.

my mum and dad have been at school since last year about this, they really have done little to stop this. i will pass on idea of papers to mum but she is at point of going to eduacation board.

what annoys me most is that the one who lives a street away actually has the nerve to call at our house and ask if my brother is coming out, to which my brother 10/10 will shout downstairs no not coming out.

[Fingy]

Do any of the ones doing the bullying have older brothers or sisters that you could have a word with?

[akane1984]

i have never seen the ones in school but one round corner has older brother but again that guys is 15/16 and actually goes to same school as my bro and his bro.

[Paulie]

Just tell him "payback`s a bitch", and if they keep it up, they will soon find out why.

[Maggy J]

Hi,I have a suggestion.Could you start meeting him from school on the occasional afternoon?This way the bullies won't know if or when you will be meeting him and the cycle may get broken.My son was being bullied as well and one way we dealt with the going home session was to send his elder sister to occasionally meet him from school.One of her looks was more than enough a fcouple of times a week to frighten them off and eventually the pattern at homecoming was broken.Possibly because they moved onto someone else.

The problem of course soon stopped the moment they realised my son was going to be over 6ft tall and built like a brickhouse in year 10.No comfort to your brother in the meantime but it will pass.In the meantime I think your mother must keep up her efforts if she feels it will help.Trouble is by the time she gets somewhere it may well be too late as he will be leaving school.

I also found that the HOY was a tremendous help and was prepared to meet and speak with me any time because he knew that my son was the victim not the bully.Sometimes it seems to me some HOY's fail to grasp this very important fact(and I am speaking as a teacher here).If you can get the HOY on your side it does help.

[akane1984]

Originally Posted by Incognitas

Hi,I have a suggestion.Could you start meeting him from school on the occasional afternoon?This way the bullies won't know if or when you will be meeting him and the cycle may get broken.My son was being bullied as well and one way we dealt with the going home session was to send his elder sister to occasionally meet him from school.One of her looks was more than enough a fcouple of times a week to frighten them off and eventually the pattern at homecoming was broken.Possibly because they moved onto someone else.

The problem of course soon stopped the moment they realised my son was going to be over 6ft tall and built like a brickhouse in year 10.No comfort to your brother in the meantime but it will pass.In the meantime I think your mother must keep up her efforts if she feels it will help.Trouble is by the time she gets somewhere it may well be too late as he will be leaving school.

I also found that the HOY was a tremendous help and was prepared to meet and speak with me any time because he knew that my son was the victim not the bully.Sometimes it seems to me some HOY's fail to grasp this very important fact(and I am speaking as a teacher here).If you can get the HOY on your side it does help.

my mum has spoke to HOY numerous times this is school i went to for 5 years and had no trouble. but now that there is trouble they are handling it poorly.

i wish i could meet him after school but am working on placement year (student) and don't get off work until after 4 and my bro is out after 3.

as say the one round corner knows how i feel if he keeps it up. but ones in his school they all live far away according to my brother so i cant really get to them to have a word.

ive printed some stuff of childline website a bully diary for my brother i am gonna ask him later if he wouldnt mind jotting down what happens in this secretly and then end of week show me it. he doesnt like talking to it about mum n dad seems to feel more comfortable with me so i hope i can get him to fill this in and then i can read what he writes by weekend. may be easier for him to write it down than speak to me about it.

[Maggy J]

Originally Posted by akane1984

my mum has spoke to HOY numerous times this is school i went to for 5 years and had no trouble. but now that there is trouble they are handling it poorly.

i wish i could meet him after school but am working on placement year (student) and don't get off work until after 4 and my bro is out after 3.

as say the one round corner knows how i feel if he keeps it up. but ones in his school they all live far away according to my brother so i cant really get to them to have a word.

ive printed some stuff of childline website a bully diary for my brother i am gonna ask him later if he wouldnt mind jotting down what happens in this secretly and then end of week show me it. he doesnt like talking to it about mum n dad seems to feel more comfortable with me so i hope i can get him to fill this in and then i can read what he writes by weekend. may be easier for him to write it down than speak to me about it.

The diary sounds like a very good idea.Something that my son's school did was to send him to a course run by the local youth groups organisation for those being bullied.It was an across schools event and was designed to give bully victims some ways of dealing with bullying while building up their self esteem.It did do my son some good because he has no trouble in dealing with potential bullies at 17.He and his college friends run rings around them mentally and verbally these days but never have to resort to physical ways at all.

[Chrysalis]

as I said in the other thread he needs to do it himself.

Official advice is to get the school to deal with it but that wont work. I wonder if people advise that have ever been bullied.

From what you say its already at the stage where there is more then 1 bully and at least 3 or 4, so he needs to do something soon.

I suggest like the others to take up martial arts, that itself may be a detterant but if not enough he needs to rough one of them up, this should deter the others onto some other poor victim. Its a case of no pain no gain I am afraid and no more cotton wool for him.