bring a suspicious looking idea.....

[kronas]

ah well, i have a bit of a thing for someone who is a proffessional, actually theres two but this particular one is a dietitian, i dont want to crack on to her so to speak, already told her shes has nice eyes and thanked her a few times, i smile, make eye contact, she just seems a nice person, who i want to get to know, i am the shyest person you will know, around women, i dont know why, im avery calm person though, i just run out of things to say.

enough rambling!

the question is how do i put my point across, that i want to get to know her, i had the stupid idea of poetry, however it would be a comedic, as well as serious angle, i have not noticed a ring or anything, what do i do then

Don't buy her an iPod lol

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Macca371

Don't buy her an iPod lol

hey i wanted her to love me but i have learnt by lesson the hard way

You can't get somebody to love you Kronas. Love is a two way operation.

Just be forthcoming and ask if she'd like to go out for a meal or a drink sometime. If she says no then you know where she and you both stand

And whatever you do if you get to dine with her, don't mention Avril

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Shabba

You can't get somebody to love you Kronas. Love is a two way operation.

yes i know sir!

Originally Posted by Shabba

Just be forthcoming and ask if she'd like to go out for a meal or a drink sometime. If she says no then you know where she and you both stand

now that reads like date need something casual

Originally Posted by Shabba

And whatever you do if you get to dine with her, don't mention Avril

ah my former love, drools

[TheBlueRaja]

Just tell her it like it is,

Hey, i wanted to ask you out for a while now, but im quite shy soo its taken a while to build up the courage, but i wondered if you would like to go out for a drink sometime.

Dont say a meal or anything, get her and you out for a few drinks in a nice quiet bar to break the ice first - meals suck as a first date because you do run out of things to say unless one of you is a total chatterbox.

IF she rejects you dont take it too badly though - its just one of those things, feel glad that you plucked up the courage to make the move and use that to get somebody else.

Its not easy to do - i was and still am a bit of a shy guy but im learning that the only way to get anywhere is to just go for it. Otherwise you just sit and wonder what could have been.

Seems to be working too at the moment which is well nice!

[ADd]

Originally Posted by kronas

yes i know sir!



now that reads like date need something casual



ah my former love, drools

If you want casual then drink is best IMO, if you go for a meal and things don't go too well you'll have to sit through all the courses till the evening is over.
Just ask her straight, when you are both alone, the worst thing she can do is say 'No'. Hey everyone has had that experience. Try to sound relaxed when you ask her, as if it is no big deal.
Obviously by asking her out, you are showing an active interest, but the first 'dates' are about getting to know each other, to see if you both have an interest in each other.
In my experience there is no 'easy' way to ask, you just have to bite the bullet. Try to keep control of your emotions, else you may subconsciously transmit this to her, and while there is nothing 'wrong' with being attracted to someone, you don't want to come across to heavy at the beginning.
You know this woman better than I, so use your instincts, she will tell you by her body language how she feels, if you can read how she is feeling you will be able to make the situation comfortable.
Above all if she says 'No', then just act cool as if it is not a problem, but she may say 'Yes', then you can get to know each other better which is great, but still stay cool - above all concentrate on how she reacts as this will tell you how to act.

Originally Posted by Kronas

yes i know sir!

Please don't call me sir as I work for a living. Mick, Shabbs or nobhead will do

Originally Posted by Kronas

now that reads like date need something casual

Ok then ask her if she'd like casual sex

[ikthius]

she may use the patient client relationship thing, if you are seeing her professionally.

just so that you know.

ik

[kronas]

Originally Posted by ikthius

she may use the patient client relationship thing, if you are seeing her professionally.

just so that you know.

ik

yes i thought about that, i think she might let me down with that gently.

Originally Posted by Shabba

Please don't call me sir as I work for a living. Mick, Shabbs or nobhead will do

im a polite guy so i will call you nob.... i mean shabba

Originally Posted by Shabba

Ok then ask her if she'd like casual sex

oh i can do cheeky

Originally Posted by TheBlueRaja

Just tell her it like it is,

Hey, i wanted to ask you out for a while now, but im quite shy soo its taken a while to build up the courage, but i wondered if you would like to go out for a drink sometime.

Dont say a meal or anything, get her and you out for a few drinks in a nice quiet bar to break the ice first - meals suck as a first date because you do run out of things to say unless one of you is a total chatterbox.

IF she rejects you dont take it too badly though - its just one of those things, feel glad that you plucked up the courage to make the move and use that to get somebody else.

Its not easy to do - i was and still am a bit of a shy guy but im learning that the only way to get anywhere is to just go for it. Otherwise you just sit and wonder what could have been.

Seems to be working too at the moment which is well nice!

aye, your right, i have learnt you have to fight for things too, be forthright, confident, casual, im not the aggressive type, im a normal bloke (normal ish )

thing is she knows im on medication, ive gone off them and feeling ok (unofficially), i felt worse when i was ON them, its kind of personal for me

[Halcyon]

Forget poetry. I think poetry is better for when you have been flirting for a while or if you are already in a couple.

I think you should just ask her simple questions.....ask what music she is into, what she likes doing at the weekend, etc.
You are bound to stumble upon something you have in common and then ask if she's free at the weekend and if she'd like to catch up for a drink....or maybe there is a film you both would like to see.
Just keep things easy as if you were going out with your friends and if she says yes use it as an opportunity to find out more and get to know her better.
Good luck. Hope it goes well.

Originally Posted by Halcyon

Forget poetry. I think poetry is better for when you have been flirting for a while or if you are already in a couple.

And if you ever get into a couple Kronas can i ask that you take my dog along with you - she could do with a long walk

[kronas]

Originally Posted by Shabba

And if you ever get into a couple Kronas can i ask that you take my dog along with you - she could do with a long walk

i dont like animals

Originally Posted by Halcyon

Forget poetry. I think poetry is better for when you have been flirting for a while or if you are already in a couple.

yep thats why i nixed the idea when i thought of it.

Originally Posted by Halcyon

I think you should just ask her simple questions.....ask what music she is into, what she likes doing at the weekend, etc.

yep

Originally Posted by Halcyon

You are bound to stumble upon something you have in common and then ask if she's free at the weekend and if she'd like to catch up for a drink....or maybe there is a film you both would like to see.
Just keep things easy as if you were going out with your friends and if she says yes use it as an opportunity to find out more and get to know her better.

hmm, quite true, i always like to do something abormally ove the top
i dont drink alcohol, but i still like going to, pubs and clubs.
im just thinking she might reject me on a few grounds,



im not the type for her
ethnicity grounds
shes taken

or cop outs,

im not interested in a relationship at this time

etc

Originally Posted by Halcyon

Good luck. Hope it goes well.

thanks, hows things going with your relationship, steady ?

[Halcyon]

I'm sure it was you who gave me some advice once Kronas where you said something along the lines of.... I wouldnt know if I didnt try so even if she is taken or doesnt want a relationship, it's worth giving it atleast a go. Your mind will end up exploding if you dont find out.

The thing that I have learnt over time (when not knowing how another person will react or feel) is that I must not let my feelings take too much control.
What I mean by that is this.... You have feelings for her and think she is great but she probably has no clue or is not picking up on it. I've made mistakes before where I've gone in straight away and told my feelings and it's backfired as she felt like it came out of nowhere.

I think in a situation like yours it's best to get to know the person, see how you are as friends and then build on that if you both feel like you have a lot in common and want to be together.
That's why I would keep things casual and just suggest something is going on in your town and would she like to go with you, etc.

As for me, yeah things are progressing. We've only been going out a little over a month now but we are getting to know each other and going out to different places. We get on really well and I'm taking each day one at a time, not rushing into things too quickly, and just seeing how it goes.
There is the age difference and I've dealt with that so it's not an issue for me anymore so I'm just going to see how things go day by day.
Thanks for asking.

[kronas]

halcyon, im ok at giving advice, not so good when it comes to myself, its inexperiance that counts against me.

im no good at being a conversationalist.

glad things are going well for you.