My child's watching pron!

11-04-2006, 19:31

Just did my weekly search on my 13 yr old boys computer and found that he's got a program that generates a code to watch redhot on freeview!

I initially went berserk and ripped the freeview box out of the wall and banned him from his pc, but then i got to thinking... when i was his age me and my friends acted like a pack of wolves whenever we found or got hold of Razzle and proceeded to knock ourselves senseless down below (hormones and all).

Am i being a bit of a hypocrit or should i, as a parent do my best to shield the lad from this sort of material?

Acathla · 11-04-2006, 19:33

not being a parent i dunno but I would suggest rather than go beserk and punish him how about talking to him about it and seeing if he can regain your trust?

EDIT: oh yeah and PM the program?

Paul · 11-04-2006, 19:40

Acathla how dare you!!!
Me too please

lol

tick · 11-04-2006, 19:41

that,s what 13 year old boys do .
it must be easy now with the help of a p'c.

**Derek** · 11-04-2006, 19:43

He might have been using it to watch Scottish football on Setanta instead of redhot? I've, erm, heard that this program can supply the codes for that as well as the redhot channel.

Still if that was the case I'd give him up for adoption. Harsh but the only way to teach him.

Does the freeview box have an option to remove channels or lock out after a certain time of night?

I suppose the redhot channels are a bit less unsavoury than some of the stuff he could find on the net.

nffc · 11-04-2006, 19:44

Does your 13 year old also drink loads of "neer" and then puke it all up again?

**Russ** · 11-04-2006, 19:49

Personally I'd rather not have a 13 year old child watch that sort of thing however actually stopping them from doing so is another matter.

Druchii · 11-04-2006, 19:50

You could try explaining that it's not acceptable for him to watch it, but then agian, try enforicing it... You've probably got very little in the ways of a chance.

EDIT: Gotta hand it to him though, he's done his research with the sounds of it, programs like that don't just fall to you by chance.

**Maggy J** · 11-04-2006, 20:22

Not very bright of him to not know that you rifle through his files.But than my 17 year old doesn't bother to hide his pron stash on my PC(it's the only one connected to the internet) even though he knows I check it regularly.Mind most of what I find is pretty tame.Anything that I find distasteful I talk to him about..like a very prolonged film excerpt that involved a very unpleasant rape scene..which he had downloaded with a load of other games related stuff.

However he is 17(18) in August and I'm going to have to face up to the fact that he is almost an adult..

I just delete everything whether it's pron or not..teaches him a lesson for a while..until the next time I look.

Never had this problem with his older sister for some reason...

**Russ** · 11-04-2006, 20:25

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

However he is 17(18) in August and I'm going to have to face up to the fact that he is almost an adult..

It's still your computer and I'd say it's up to you what happens on it!

paul11974 · 11-04-2006, 20:31

its only natural at least he is looking at the opposite sex

**Maggy J** · 11-04-2006, 20:34

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Originally Posted by Russ D

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

However he is 17(18) in August and I'm going to have to face up to the fact that he is almost an adult..

It's still your computer and I'd say it's up to you what happens on it!

Agreed!But my point is that when he is an adult I will have to try and treat him like an adult..not be a nag and try to respect his privacy.Trouble is his sister was almost out of the door when she turned 18 and I thought the same would happen with him.But he's not going to uni in September.Means I'm going to have to remember he is an adult..and not my curly headed tot.

**Paul M** · 11-04-2006, 20:40

Going beserk will simply make him more careful not to be detected next time

11-04-2006, 20:45

Id just say nice find mate

then question myself at giving a child unmonitored internet then breaching his privacy afterwards

11-04-2006, 20:57

I've come to the conclusion that every 13 year old must have the same illicit thoughts that i had way back in 1981. The technology has changed from paper to digital but the result is the same.

I've let him back onto Habbo Hotel but the freeview box is banned.

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Originally Posted by nffc

Does your 13 year old also drink loads of "neer" and then puke it all up again?

Do you mean beer? I don't think so.

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Originally Posted by paul11974

its only natural at least he is looking at the opposite sex

Exact same sentiments as his mum and why i've allowed back on the net but with a few limitations

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Originally Posted by zinglebarb

Id just say nice find mate

then question myself at giving a child unmonitored internet then breaching his privacy afterwards

I do a weekly scourge and also block any of the more unsavoury sites. The freeview hack was given to him by a friend whilst he was at school. I can't monitor that so i've no need to question myself at all!