I feel bad

Cawker · 17-02-2006, 20:31

My partners brother was on the phone. We like him to ask so we can monitor the times and such. He never asked.

I only found out as i was to ring my dad and heard him talking on it.

My partner went down and asked him to come off the phone so i could ring my dad. She went down and he was sticking his fingers up at her and basically giving her a right attitude. He has to wash his own plate up and he never so my gf asked him to and he said "What you going to do make me?"

So i went down and said look we dont mind you using the phone, just as long as you ask? Also i said i dont like the cheek your giving my gf so it stops now.

Was i right to say this?

I kinda feel bad

tick · 17-02-2006, 20:33

if you think you where right why worry ?

Cawker · 17-02-2006, 20:33

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Originally Posted by tick

if you think you where right why worry ?

I dunno i just feel bad like i should of left them to it and not getting involved

**Chris** · 17-02-2006, 20:34

Whose phone is it, and who pays the bill (and does he contribute)?

Cawker · 17-02-2006, 20:36

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Whose phone is it, and who pays the bill (and does he contribute)?

Well the handset is not mine. But the account is mine and me and my partner pay the bill

**Chris** · 17-02-2006, 20:41

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Originally Posted by Cawker

Well the handset is not mine. But the account is mine and me and my partner pay the bill

In which case, in your position, I would have gone down, put my finger on the hook to cut the call off, and told him if he can't respect your rules and your things, he can take a running jump. No doubt earning a mouthful of abuse in the process, but if he can't grow up enough to realise that he and his sister are not children any more, and veeing up at her when she asks him to get off *her* phone is not acceptable, that's his problem.

Years ago when I was still living at my mums, my sister and her boyfriend moved back in and lived there for several months. I had a PC in my room which he used to use. I told him I didn't mind, so long has he didn't install anything on it while I wasn't there. Despite this, he would constantly do what he pleased with it. Eventually I put a password on the machine so he couldn't use it at all. I hate treating adults like kids, but sadly some never actually grow up.

tick · 17-02-2006, 20:41

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Originally Posted by Cawker

I dunno i just feel bad like i should of left them to it and not getting involved

leave it a bit and have words with him latter maybe he will See your point .who No's

Paul · 17-02-2006, 21:00

I'm with Chris, stand your ground or he will do it again and again as he knows it pushes your buttons. While he is in your house as your guest he should play by the rules. If he can't then it's a case of tough cr*p don't bother coming round, especially if he sees nothing wrong in being abusive and rude to your partner.

Cawker · 17-02-2006, 21:13

Cheers for the replies peeps

Halcyon · 17-02-2006, 22:38

I also agree with Chris.
If he isnt contributing any money, he has no right to just use things without asking.
You need to get the message through to him that whilst he is under your roof, he can't do whatever he wants.