Cancer

wilcoxm · 17-01-2006, 23:38

I realise this topic has been mentioned before on this forum, but till not i had realized the impact it can have on a family or friendship until today.

One of my work colleagues who i class as a Friend out of work, today found out that his (stepson) of 19 years of age has terminal cancer. Upon hearing this news, he wanted to book a holiday abroad in easter this year only to be told to take that trip sooner!!!!

At 19 years of age, he hasn't the key to the door, never voted, drove a car or anything on par with all who are reading this today. He said sorry to his mum for being ill.

What do you say to try and console a 34 year old chap who has to deal with, and keep strong for himself, his partner and the two brothers who are left knowing their brother of 19, has terminal cancer.

Please give all you can to cancer research, as i do not wish to go through what he is going through tonight.

(He would not like me posting this, so sorry if you come across it B, cant think of anything else to do but seek advice and spread the word on this heartache)

**Damien** · 17-01-2006, 23:42

I'am sorry mate.

Life is so unfair sometimes it cant be put into words

All you can do is be there for him. This is so sad

etccarmageddon · 17-01-2006, 23:48

I'm doing as much as I can.

I upgraded my pc so it would run the cancer research program faster and I publicise it as much as I can.

I tried to get a few people at work to load it up on their machines and I was surprised how negative they were - no one was in the least bit interested.

I lost my best mate to it, my other half lost her brother to it, my dead best mate's dad died of it, my aunt died of it...

so I agree with your sentiments 100%.

Halcyon · 17-01-2006, 23:57

I find it very important to support cancer research too.
Its not just about finding a cure, its about the work they do to help those with cancer and their families and it is well worth supporting.

I know it must be a hard position for you right now, but I think just being there for your friend is all you can do.
Listen to him, and make time for him. Ask him if he needs any help in organising things. Maybe he would like to do some final things with his son.
Sorry I cant suggest anything else, but just being there for him to be able to confide in you is probably good.

18-01-2006, 05:14

Words escape me at this time, a 19 year old lad with his life ahead of him has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, what is he going through? Life can be so cruel at times. What must the parents be going through? Parents don't bury their kids it's the other way round.

Cancer research is worth every penny they get, I never ingnore a Cancer research tin or a collector for Cancer reasearch.

18-01-2006, 07:05

been through it in my family, my cousin died at the early age of 21.
She had fought cancer for 10 years.

Cancer research gets missed a lot in favour of macmillan nurses, which I find hard to differentiate between the two, they are both equally deserving.

ginnie · 20-01-2006, 10:03

That is so sad ---I am sorry

wilcoxm · 31-03-2006, 22:38

Well today was the day the 19 year old passed away. 6 months after being diagnosed with cancer, cancer took away another young life.

As i mentioned in my original post, at 19 he never had chance to vote but he did get chance to drive car around a racetrack, go on holiday and have a executive box at a premiership footie match.

Such a waste of a good young life, so make sure you make the most of yours and respect what you have.

RIP - Phil

**Russ** · 31-03-2006, 22:50

So sorry to hear that - RIP indeed.

nffc · 01-04-2006, 00:47

RIP. I'm 22, 19 seems too young to die

Druchii · 01-04-2006, 00:56

RIP.

And link me to the Cancer research program, i have a 3.5Ghz Rig here, overclocked to run this for everyone, as long as it helps.

My Nan died of Cancer, it is a sad thing, i don't remember here, but i do remember she was 49 at the time.

19 is simply too young to go.

My condolences.

**Maggy J** · 01-04-2006, 01:08

My grandparents died of cancer.Three years ago my m0ther-in-law had a colostomy because of bowel cancer.My sister has just finished Chemo after having a masectomy,my cousin's wife has been fighting cancer for the last three years also and my husbands cousin has a terminal leukemia(the sort there is no cure for but he could die today,next month or in 20 years time).

So my sympathies to your friend whom I will remember when I next see a cancer collector.Actually that was last weekend when I paid up outside the two local supermarkets and for two different cancer charities.

The trouble is that there are so many cancers that they all seem to have their own charity set up for research..I sometimes wonder if they should be more centralised in their collecting.

highlandlassie · 01-04-2006, 01:48

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my niece a few days ago, she had just turned 16, I am still going through all the emotions.

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The trouble is that there are so many cancers that they all seem to have their own charity set up for research..I sometimes wonder if they should be more centralised in their collecting.

I agree with that

Chrysalis · 01-04-2006, 02:05

so sorry.

cancer is so depressing, I think its more common then is made public and we badly need a cure.

punky · 01-04-2006, 03:01

I am so sorry to hear that wilcoxm. I don't know what I can say, but i'll try... Someone said on here that we shouldn't mourn death, but celebrate their life. Its hard to think that, but he's true - we should. Its such a shame Phil lead a short life, but with his holiday, track driving, and footie match, hopefully with his life before he diagnosed that hopefully he led a happy and fulfilling life - albeit short.

I think Phil's death although sad & tragic can serve as a reminder just how short life is. Don't bear grudges & don't stop yourself short. Live for today, because you never know what tomorrow might bring.