Problems with Neighbours

homer · 09-10-2005, 23:31

Hi All,

Any advice greatly recived here we go....

I have problems with my neighbours they have wrote a letter to the water board about use of a sprinkler. (sorted out now i know not to use one).
I have recived a letter from the council about noise (diy)only at weekends from 10am till 16:00. Sunday 11:00am ish till 15:30 ish.
I have replied to the letter to the council and they said ok time limits are ok.
Got a second letter from council about noise again but this time I went to see them they seem to be on the neighbours side but i tried to explain that the diy are in the time limits you set they said we will let you know.
However I tried to get him to come to my address but he didnt want to know.
Also the neighbours do rude signs out of the window and shout abuse at myself and my family. there are more things to tell but i would have to buy a new keyboard to explain to the full I am at the end of my wits I have a young family and want to be left alone any help PLEASE........

09-10-2005, 23:33

Ignore it children often go away when ignored.

marky · 09-10-2005, 23:36

Without taking sides, it depends how loud your DIY is and how often, but you could complain about the abuse

Roy MM · 09-10-2005, 23:37

Have you had a run in with them previously? they could be holding a grundge.

homer · 09-10-2005, 23:38

Quote:

Originally Posted by zinglebarb

Ignore it children often go away when ignored.

Hi,

I do ignore it but it is very hard when they take parcel in for you the shout across the street saying OI IT FOR YOU then throw it on to the path I brought this item from ebay and it was sent from dhl.... this is just one thing I have to put up with.....

Homer

**Rob** · 09-10-2005, 23:39

There are no easy answers here. IF relationships with neighbours break down, they are usually irrecoverable. Many councils do have a neighbourhood dispute mediation scheme. Might be worth enquiring of the council?

Do you own your home or rent from a local authority / housing association. If you rent, the housing office may be able to offer advice.

DIY is a pain in the backside if you are using noisy tools every weekend. It's not just limits agreed with council environmental health but also being neighbourly, and giving them a break.

However issues sound like your neighbours are just as bad. If their signs etc are too bad, speak to police about harassement and display of offensive signs (a crimilar offence - public order).

Beware if your own private home, dispute with neighbour will badly affect value as most purchasers will ask if any disputes, you have to answer truthfully,and so buyer walks away from purchase.

**Graham M** · 09-10-2005, 23:40

Phone the police next time anything like that happens.

Angua · 09-10-2005, 23:40

Quote:

Originally Posted by homer

Hi All,

Any advice greatly recived here we go....

I have problems with my neighbours they have wrote a letter to the water board about use of a sprinkler. (sorted out now i know not to use one).
I have recived a letter from the council about noise (diy)only at weekends from 10am till 16:00. Sunday 11:00am ish till 15:30 ish.
I have replied to the letter to the council and they said ok time limits are ok.
Got a second letter from council about noise again but this time I went to see them they seem to be on the neighbours side but i tried to explain that the diy are in the time limits you set they said we will let you know.
However I tried to get him to come to my address but he didnt want to know.
Also the neighbours do rude signs out of the window and shout abuse at myself and my family. there are more things to tell but i would have to buy a new keyboard to explain to the full I am at the end of my wits I have a young family and want to be left alone any help PLEASE........

Seems to me they don't really want to get on with you. However get hold of your local Councillor and get them to help you, this sort of thing is what they are there for. It may take some time but try to get a mediation service in as soon as possible. Do you know if anyone next door works shifts? This can also be a big problem, if they bothered speaking to you properly this sort of information would be known.

Keep a diary of everytime you receive abuse and also make a note of exactly when you are doing DiY or some other particularly noisy task.

Good luck.

marky · 09-10-2005, 23:41

I take back what i said, accross the street

do they have microphones in your house or what

homer · 09-10-2005, 23:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by marky

Without taking sides, it depends how loud your DIY is and how often, but you could complain about the abuse

Hi, I am putting in a new kitchen just like they did last year but i never complained. but there next door neighbours had a brick extension built but nothing was said to the council only to street members...

09-10-2005, 23:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by homer

Hi,

I do ignore it but it is very hard when they take parcel in for you the shout across the street saying OI IT FOR YOU then throw it on to the path I brought this item from ebay and it was sent from dhl.... this is just one thing I have to put up with.....

Homer

Thats criminal damage

Angua · 09-10-2005, 23:43

Try this link

homer · 10-10-2005, 00:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angua

Seems to me they don't really want to get on with you. However get hold of your local Councillor and get them to help you, this sort of thing is what they are there for. It may take some time but try to get a mediation service in as soon as possible. Do you know if anyone next door works shifts? This can also be a big problem, if they bothered speaking to you properly this sort of information would be known.

Keep a diary of everytime you receive abuse and also make a note of exactly when you are doing DiY or some other particularly noisy task.

Good luck.

Hi Thanks for the info the police are aware and coming to me on monday
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Quote:

Originally Posted by Rob C

There are no easy answers here. IF relationships with neighbours break down, they are usually irrecoverable. Many councils do have a neighbourhood dispute mediation scheme. Might be worth enquiring of the council?

Do you own your home or rent from a local authority / housing association. If you rent, the housing office may be able to offer advice.

DIY is a pain in the backside if you are using noisy tools every weekend. It's not just limits agreed with council environmental health but also being neighbourly, and giving them a break.

However issues sound like your neighbours are just as bad. If their signs etc are too bad, speak to police about harassement and display of offensive signs (a crimilar offence - public order).

Beware if your own private home, dispute with neighbour will badly affect value as most purchasers will ask if any disputes, you have to answer truthfully,and so buyer walks away from purchase.

Hi Thanks for that I do own my home and so do they, However I have tried to explain to them about the new kitchen but they said they didnt want to know and to **** off.(very nice)
Also I do the diy not every weekend because I have young children aged 5 I have twins so I dont even do diy on every weekend...
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Oh Yes i forgot to say I do keep a log on what is said and also I have cctv sound footage of them gobbin off at me and my family.
this is a nice street we live in but it has gone down hill since they moved in many people have said.
We were good friends until they started throwing matches at my kids swimming pool on which they burnt a hole in.... that when we decided that these people are not worth it and we didnt speak...

Homer

danielf · 10-10-2005, 00:03

Quote:

Originally Posted by homer

Hi Thanks for that I do own my home and so do they, However I have tried to explain to them about the new kitchen but they said they didnt want to know and to **** off.(very nice)
Also I do the diy not every weekend because I have young children aged 5 I have twins so I dont even do diy on every weekend...

Do you have any idea why they are acting like this? Have you had previous run-ins?

marky · 10-10-2005, 00:05

Just a question, is your car a nice one and does you house look nice, i only ask because jeulous people can be nasty.