What do i do?

08-10-2005, 22:23

I been going out with my gf for 9 months now and after a arguement with her mom she moved in with me and my mom.

Now call her mom dysfunctional but a few months back my gfs younger sister got kicked out to. And she moved in with us to.

Now since I have Sky+, Telewest bb and a phone in my room i tend to not go downstairs and share a tv. I spend most my time in my room and so did my gf as she has a networked laptop in here to. Since her sister has moved in i have hardly seen her. Tonight she said we would cuddle up and watch a film together. It never happened she stopped downstairs with her sister and her friend.

I dont want to sit downstairs with 3 girls. So i went down and asked if my gf to come upstairs so we could watch a film. She said no.

I dont know any more if i want to be with her as it feels i am single anyway as i hardly see her anymore

What do i do?

Any advice please

smicer07 · 08-10-2005, 22:26

Sit her down and tell her you feel unwanted and just be honest with her, mate. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she's angry with you, then something is up.... That's what I'd do anyway.

08-10-2005, 22:39

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Originally Posted by smicer07

Sit her down and tell her you feel unwanted and just be honest with her, mate. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she's angry with you, then something is up.... That's what I'd do anyway.

I have done. All she keeps saying is sorry i will try harder but it only lasts like day then its back to normal

Pia · 08-10-2005, 22:42

Couldn't you ring the mother and tell her to come and get her daughter?

08-10-2005, 22:53

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Originally Posted by piaswales

Couldn't you ring the mother and tell her to come and get her daughter?

She dont want to go back with her mom.

Wicked_and_Crazy · 08-10-2005, 22:57

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Originally Posted by Angelus

She dont want to go back with her mom.

But you also dont need her sister there and you dont have any obligation to take her sister in. I feel the issue is with her sister bening there and this is what is causing your g/f to be torn between two people.

Martin · 08-10-2005, 22:59

Well if i was you i'd get the other sister back home regardless of what she wants otherwise your relationship sounds doomed!!!!

Pia · 08-10-2005, 23:00

How old is her sister?
Could you not talk to her about this?
She might be feeling in the way anyway so maybe your gf is just trying to make her feel more welcome?

08-10-2005, 23:01

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Originally Posted by piaswales

How old is her sister?
Could you not talk to her about this?
She might be feeling in the way anyway so maybe your gf is just trying to make her feel more welcome?

She is 16 just turned

Pia · 08-10-2005, 23:07

I have been in the same situation as your girlfriend, with my older sister. We didn't live with her bf though, but one of her friends from work, and i was 16, my sister was 20.

Because it was my sister's friend we stayed with- and not mine- i felt awkward being there and my big sister felt she had to look out for me in the situation we were in anyway.

I understand you feeling like this but if i were you, i'd just be a little bit more patient, as hard as it is.

Your girlfriend will have taken it as her duty to look after her sister as they haven't got their mother at the moment.

As long as you have your girlfriend there and she is grateful that you are doing this for her, then remember how lucky that you have her, and that you are in a position to help her and her little sister at a time like this.

If she cares about you she will never forget how amazing you are being for helping her out.
But remember not to be too demanding on her.

lippy · 09-10-2005, 03:55

How old are you?

Do you want a romantic answer?

Do you want a truthful answer?

Be there for someone yes.
Get used NO!

daz300 · 09-10-2005, 10:10

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Originally Posted by smicer07

Sit her down and tell her you feel unwanted and just be honest with her, mate. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she's angry with you, then something is up.... That's what I'd do anyway.

this is the way to go i think , but you all so have to think about where can they go if they want out .

Halcyon · 09-10-2005, 10:28

I think you should try and sit her down and tell her that she isnt making an effort. If she seems to be promising to change and isnt doing so then its time she knows the truth of it all.
Maybe you could have a word with the sister too to tell her to give you and your gf some space from time to time.

I think you definately need to not accept any more promises from her and if she continues to not change, you need to tell her that a) you are her boyfriend and your relationship is more important, and 2) she is living in your house so needs to make more of an effort anyway.
Good luck.

Jules · 09-10-2005, 10:33

Give and take, tell her you will spend time with her and her sister but that you also need time alone together

sir_drinks_alot · 09-10-2005, 12:10

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Originally Posted by Angelus

She is 16 just turned

Tell her that she's out stayed her welcome and that she will be kicked out of the
House on a set date whether she's got a place to go or not. the girl will soon go running home ones she realizes she may end up homeless.