I feel like crap

Central · 20-01-2009, 23:45

My nan died today. After all the trouble I been having lately. Everything has just got on top of me

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The nosebleeds started today at my first day back at work and I got sent home. My ex who I love very much told me we would stay friends. Only now she is ignoring me and its hurting me so much.

Already on anti depressants but I feel like crap.

I just want this to end

20-01-2009, 23:54

sorry things are bad mate I know how you feel

DaiNasty · 21-01-2009, 00:02

Man, it doesn't get much worse than that.
Sometimes life just seems to deal you a bad hand. Stay strong, it can only get better.

Halcyon · 21-01-2009, 00:07

Hi,

I'm really sorry to hear about your Gran.
I know that it must be a hard time for you, especially with everything else going on right now.

All I can say to you based on my experience is don't bottle things up. If you need a good cry and need some space do it. Maybe try to get away from everything for a couple of days.
It's good to be away from everything to clear your head.

I know that it is often impossible to clear the thoughts and feelings of someone from your mind but I've been told it does get better. I'm currently in a similar stuation whereby my longest lasting girlfriend and I have basically come to an end and although it is driving me crazy, I have to try and step back from it all. I've been trying to see friends and get involved in other things to spend my time.
With me it's one minute she wants me back, the next she doesnt. This just ends up causing more hurt as feelings bounce backwards and forwards and you don't know anything anymore.
Try not to end up in that situation and instead focus on spending time doing other things.

At the end of the day you may not want to hear this but in a way it is good she told you the way she felt as it means you won't get hurt any more.
I know it is hurting now but it will get easier eventually. Hang in there. We are all here on the forums whenever you need to chat.

As for your nose bleeds, it is good you have gone to the doctors. I used to have some and my doctor gave me these sticks that would help the clotting a lot faster. Maybe you could try those.

I wish you all the best. I know it's not easy, but you can get through this.

21-01-2009, 00:28

It's really hard especially when everything is happening at once, it makes life worse as you keep thinking what's next?

The only advice I can give you, is talk to someone, anyone. You can give the Samaritans a call? Here's their web site... http://www.samaritans.org/

Also...

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depr..._treatment.htm

How old are you? By the way, the anti-depressants can take 6 to 8 weeks to actually kick in, so give them time.

There's always someone available on here to speak to if you're having a bad time.

Central · 21-01-2009, 00:30

I am 28

21-01-2009, 00:33

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Originally Posted by Central

I am 28

That's ok, I was worried that the medication might have had undesirable side affects if you were in your teens. You should be ok as long as you stick to the correct dosage. And remember it does take time, but you should feel the benefits soon.

icestar2 · 21-01-2009, 01:05

Sorry to hear your going through such a hard time Central. I would echo what other's have said about talking to someone. A friend if possible but if not then elsewere as mentioned.

You'd be surprised the amount of weight that can be lifted sometimes just by talking to someone. At least this is whats helped me through troubled times and I am normally one to keep things locked up tbh.

I hope and have faith that you will have much better times to come so try to focus on that and keep yourself busy were possible and your mind off things which lead you to feel down.

**Maggy J** · 21-01-2009, 07:43

Quote:

Originally Posted by Central

My nan died today. After all the trouble I been having lately. Everything has just got on top of me

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=962491
http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=941509

The nosebleeds started today at my first day back at work and I got sent home. My ex who I love very much told me we would stay friends. Only now she is ignoring me and its hurting me so much.

Already on anti depressants but I feel like crap.

I just want this to end

It will.

All pain lessens day by day until eventually you find that it does not dominate your thoughts first and last thing at night.Try not to let things overwhelm in the meantime.If they do talk to anyone who might help.Your doctor maybe of help if you have trouble sleeping or need a counsellor.

Try to keep your chin up...

webcrawler2050 · 21-01-2009, 08:27

Death is horrible, we have just had a death in our family, my aunty, perfectly healthy, 45, just here one second, not the next.

Keep strong, focus on the positive memories, you will get through this.

mr,m · 21-01-2009, 10:05

It's so hard coping with a break up,but to suffer a bereavment at the same time is terrible.
I split up with my partner of over 10 years about 3 years ago.I still have dreams and wake up in a total panic.I can usually cope with it now,but the worst thing is similar to the op,she gets in touch now and again,just for a chat type of thing as friends,it throws me back,but have'nt got the guts to tell her to leave me alone.
As others have said,talking helps much more than anti d's,for a start they take too long to kick in,but a friendly,understanding ear is instant.Try not to lock yourself away,try to get out,but do avoid any trigger points,ie,things you used to do together or places that have a special meaning to you.
Do you have a herb shop like Holand and Barret near you?
Get some Valerian root very good for relaxation and non addictive,should help with the sleeping.
Remember,you think you're the only one right now,plenty of people feel just as bad or even worse,try to hang on,things WILL get better!!

tiger325 · 22-01-2009, 02:02

sorry to hear you are going through a tough time...we are here to listen mate

tweetypie/8 · 22-01-2009, 12:56

Quote:

Originally Posted by Central

My nan died today. After all the trouble I been having lately. Everything has just got on top of me

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=962491
http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=941509

The nosebleeds started today at my first day back at work and I got sent home. My ex who I love very much told me we would stay friends. Only now she is ignoring me and its hurting me so much.

Already on anti depressants but I feel like crap.

I just want this to end

sorry for your probs central,all i can say is hang in there and things will get better,dont resort to self pity or you will drown the ex imo aint worth worrying about.

budwieser · 22-01-2009, 22:24

Quote:

Originally Posted by Central

My nan died today. After all the trouble I been having lately. Everything has just got on top of me

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=962491
http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=941509

The nosebleeds started today at my first day back at work and I got sent home. My ex who I love very much told me we would stay friends. Only now she is ignoring me and its hurting me so much.

Already on anti depressants but I feel like crap.

I just want this to end

When i was 26, i found out my wife (ex) was seeing someone else.
After trying to get her back for 4 months i then found out that i had cancer, bought on by the stress,.
I beat it and i got better. You need to have a positive attitude towards yourself and just say **** it!.
You will get over this and you will be a stronger person for it.

If you pm me i`ll give you my IM addy so we can have a bit of a chat if you like. up to you mate.
You only ever hurt this bad the first time.

Take care.

broadbandking · 22-01-2009, 23:37

Chin up buddy I find listening to happy songs normally helps it might sound silly but I have done it when I spilt from my last but one girlfriend man did I love her, dude its gets easier