Does a girl like me or not? Advice please.

wwe · 17-11-2008, 15:56

hi ive got this girl who i work with and a mate of mine at work 2 weeks ago she just turned round to me and said that she would go out with me so later that night i text her and asked her if she was jokin she said no so i replyed why don't we then she text me back saing she was sort of seeing some one but he doing my head in im thinking of dumping him so 2 days after she told me at work that she finishes with him the next day i text her asking is there any chance for me and her she replyed i don't know yet your a good mate to me i don't want us to fall out.

what do you people reckon is she just saying it or is it true any advice would help thank you

17-11-2008, 16:04

leave it mate complicated from the start. If she jumps on ya later all well and good

cimt · 17-11-2008, 16:08

As David said, leave it. If she was really into you, she wouldn't be thinking of dumping him. She would of. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's better than getting yourself into some complicated relationship.

AndyCambs · 17-11-2008, 16:09

It will only end in tears - wait till she begs you to go out with her.

boroboi · 17-11-2008, 16:10

Women like that deserve no attention at all.

Tell her unless she's rid of the other guy and serious about wanting to go out somewhere with you then just forget the idea.

Worked a charm for me on a couple of occasions, because you find out if the girl is really interested or not, and you dont lose out if she isn't. Granted for me its usually worked out for the better and i've managed to get a bit

but saves you the hassle if she goes out with you then decides she wants her bf back or something.

wwe · 17-11-2008, 16:15

as i said in the 1st post she has got rid of the guy she single now

**Maggy J** · 17-11-2008, 16:28

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Originally Posted by wwe

she has got rid of the guy she single now

Hmm!

That was rather quick..don't you think?

I'd be very careful with this girl..she sounds the sort that will keep/string a bloke until someone better comes along.

Best to not invest too much into the relationship to begin with..just have some fun but be ready when boredom sets in.

wwe · 17-11-2008, 16:33

she not really like that she coun't him cheating on her and she give him a 2nd chance but then he was just doing her head in and texting her bad stuff say if i wanted to go out with the person whats the best way to get her to say yes and she said i don't know yet your a good mate to me i don't want us to fall out

etccarmageddon · 17-11-2008, 16:36

sounds like she is stringing you alone and probably others and keeping you in reserve and generally a waste of space. I'd just delete her number.

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Originally Posted by wwe

she not really like that she coun't him cheating on her and she give him a 2nd chance but then he was just doing her head in and texting her bad stuff say if i wanted to go out with the person whats the best way to get her to say yes and she said i don't know yet your a good mate to me i don't want us to fall out

look I'm speaking from experience here!!!! you are ****ing in the wind. if you want someone to make a fool out of you then keep chasing and being wound up by her.

firstly I'd tell her I have no interest in any of this she's talking about.

she's the sort who will use you matey. and as said by others will drop you as soon as something more exciting comes along.

oh and she's taking the P out of you - wake up.

Charlie_Bubble · 17-11-2008, 16:36

Going out with/sleeping with someone at work is ok until you break up, then it becomes awkward for you and everyone who knows about it. Advice from someone who's gone through it, steer clear.

etccarmageddon · 17-11-2008, 16:37

but if you really want her - then a girl like that responds better to someone who doesnt run after her and tells her he's lost interest.

wwe · 17-11-2008, 16:44

me and her have been mates for over a year and she not the kind of person to stringing u along she get on with every 1 at work and we talk on the phone for like 30 mins a day she just worried that if we did go out with each orther we might fall out and she doesn't want to lose me as a friend whats the best way to convice her to give it a shot

etccarmageddon · 17-11-2008, 16:56

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Originally Posted by wwe

me and her have been mates for over a year and she not the kind of person to stringing u along she get on with every 1 at work and we talk on the phone for like 30 mins a day she just worried that if we did go out with each orther we might fall out and she doesn't want to lose me as a friend whats the best way to convice her to give it a shot

learn to use full stops.

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she just turned round to me and said that she would go out with me

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the next day i text her asking is there any chance for me and her she replyed i don't know yet your a good mate to me

yeah you're right she's not the type to string you along!

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ok, in answer to your question I will repeat myself, the best way to give it a shot is to delete her number, tell her you're bored and you need sex and you aren't her agony uncle and dont give a poo about her previous relationships. also tell her you're not sure if she could handle you anyway cos you're a real man. I am not joking.

Gary L · 17-11-2008, 17:00

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Originally Posted by Maggy J

I'd be very careful with this girl..she sounds the sort that will keep/string a bloke until someone better comes along.

I'm at the very end of that list. she'll need to go through a few to get to me

wwe · 17-11-2008, 17:05

sorry mate for not useing full stops. We were talking at work on a break and car't remmber it all we were talking about 2 orther people at work going out with each orther and what we reckon to it and i think i turned round and said wounder if that will every happen to me? she said she would go out with me but i thought she was just joking so i left it like that. We finishes the shift fine no promblems we still spoke thats when i text her once we finishes just to she if she ment it and she said she wasn't joking. But she sort of seeing the lad who i got told by her she finishes with him becouse he was cheating on her but she give him a norther chance but did not want to say anything incase people started asking her why? But now she finishes with him becouse he was texting her bad stuff and doing her head in couse i asked her how she getting on with him and she said she finishes with him. So i texted her later asking her she said she doesn't know she doesn't want to lose me as a good mate.
what would your advice be to convice her that we should give it ago?