Sharing a bed - questions for the men

greencreeper · 29-05-2007, 19:09

Men...

Would you share a bed, purely for sleeping purposes, with a gay man?

How would you react/feel if, after sharing a bed with a man, you later discovered he was gay?

Do you feel that you have a right to know that a man is gay, if you intend sharing a bed with him?

**Jefferson T** · 29-05-2007, 19:13

I'll probably get pounced on for this, but I must admit to being uneasy at the prospect.

Sorry, I suspect in all homesty it's my ignorance rather than anything would 'happen'

Having said that I'd probably do it anyway, sleep is sleep.

edit - and I'd be a lot happier if I knew first.

I don't mean to offend anyone.

greencreeper · 29-05-2007, 19:15

That's fine, Dilli - I was expecting the majority of men to say the same thing. Do you feel able to expand on what you fear?

Paul · 29-05-2007, 19:19

As long as he promised to respect me in the morning ......

If you trust or expect the person to respect your sexuality then it should work both ways. Let's face it, the other person may not even think you are attractive lol

**Jefferson T** · 29-05-2007, 19:19

I think the problem as I've said is my ignorance on the subject. I'd be worried he'd 'go for me' during the night.

Obviously not going to happen,.

I think if I actually got to know someone who IS gay then I'd not have a problem if you see what I mean.

TheDaddy · 29-05-2007, 19:20

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Originally Posted by greencreeper

Men...

Would you share a bed, purely for sleeping purposes, with a gay man?

How would you react/feel if, after sharing a bed with a man, you later discovered he was gay?

Do you feel that you have a right to know that a man is gay, if you intend sharing a bed with him?

All depends on the situation really, if it came out, so to speak afterwards as am off the cuff throw away remark I wouldn't be to bothered, anyway enough about me, what have you done to make you ask this question?

**Russ B** · 29-05-2007, 19:23

Revelation - I have done

One of the wrestlers on the rosters is gay and we did a show in Bristol last year, 6 of us missed the train back so we all crashed in one of the guys' gaff, I was in agony and grabbed the other double bed and so did the gay fella. He knows I'm not an uphill gardener (he probably doesn't fancy me anyway) and to be honest I was more interested in a good nights' sleep because of the pain to worry about if he'd try it on.

Saying that it was probably more to do with the fact I know the guy. If it was a gay bloke I didn't know then perhaps Id feel uneasy.

budwieser · 29-05-2007, 19:33

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Originally Posted by greencreeper

Men...

Would you share a bed, purely for sleeping purposes, with a gay man?

How would you react/feel if, after sharing a bed with a man, you later discovered he was gay?

Do you feel that you have a right to know that a man is gay, if you intend sharing a bed with him?

Why do you ask the question to start with?
I just see visions of " Trains, Planes and automobiles" where steve martin wakes up!!!!!!!!!!

**Derek S** · 29-05-2007, 19:35

Wouldn't really bother me as long as there was a decent amount of space between us (that goes for if the other guy was gay or not)
I'd not be comfortable being close together with another man in bed if it was too close together, in that case I'd be looking for a comfy bit of floor.

**David F** · 29-05-2007, 19:40

I can quite happliy sleep on the floor or in a chair so wouldnt happen

**Jefferson T** · 29-05-2007, 19:44

Mind you if they snore then I couldn't care WHO it is I can't share....

TheDaddy · 29-05-2007, 19:46

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Originally Posted by budwieser

I just see visions of " Trains, Planes and automobiles" where steve martin wakes up!!!!!!!!!!

That's not a pillow

punky · 29-05-2007, 20:09

I'm not a good sleeper, so I don't really want to share a bed with anyone except the missus. Noone else but her would stand me anyway. I snore like a jackhammer, talk in my sleep, twitch and toss constantly. And to boot I suffer with sleep apneoa. A little side story, before me and the missus were going out, the option came up to share a bed. I declined because knowing me, she'd wake up with me, with me asleep and my hand on boobs, and i'd end up in the 'Scrubs.

Push come to shove though, it wouldn't bother me. With no disrespect to anyone that disagrees, here's my view: I'm not arrogant enough to think that every man fancies me, and just because someone's gay, it doesn't mean they'd take advantage of me. So it doesn't really make a difference. The thing is though, with my sleep behavior, its more likely that we'd wake up with me cuddling him than the other way around. And lets face it. Gay men have to use male changing rooms. And there's no way to tell if anyone is gay. So you can't be too paranoid about it.

With regards to "should I know?", no. Its none of my business.

**Chris T** · 29-05-2007, 20:29

I wouldn't share a bed with anyone I didn't know and trust. In fact, I have only ever shared a bed with my missus.

On the other hand I have shared tents with males and females, two males in particular who were both close friends in my teens and who both later 'came out'. I can't say it bothered me in retrospect and TBH although circumstances meant we never went camping after that, it wouldn't have bothered me anyway. Like I said, I wouldn't do it with anyone I didn't trust.

**Stuart C** · 29-05-2007, 20:38

As with Chris, I wouldn't share a bed with anyone I didn't know and trust. However, if needs be, I will happily share a bed with a friend, gay or not. Indeed, I have done (although he was my sister's boyfriend at the time, so I was fairly certain he was straight).