Unreasonable?

Barewolf · 27-04-2007, 11:52

Do you think i am being unreasonable?

My GF's neighbour keeps coming round for a joint. She has supposed to have stopped smoking it but recently he is always round there. Last night she was stressed out and he came round at 12 midnight.

Ive noticed a big change in her recently which she says is down to me being an idiot.

Isnt it natural to get jealous over her neighbour coming round giving her weed and comforting her when it should be me?

Im so stressed out. I NEED A JOINT.

Ive been so nice to her, trying to sort her broadband out, and her benefit for her son, and offered to take her away for a weekend so we can bond more, and she just doesnt care. Smokes weed with her neighbour and never talks to me anymore.

Action Jackson · 27-04-2007, 11:57

I'd ditch her if what you say in your last paragraph is true.

Smoking dope is illegal. Expect the morality police to arrive on this thread pronto

gazzae · 27-04-2007, 12:00

In my experience weed doesn't usually give people the horn. So look on the bright side she's probably not shagging him.

punky · 27-04-2007, 12:00

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Originally Posted by Action Jackson

Smoking dope is illegal. Expect the morality police to arrive on this thread pronto

We aren't going to pretend it doesn't go on, but we're not going to tell you where to score cheap drugs. Bit of a difference there.

Xaccers · 27-04-2007, 12:01

If my gf smoked weed, I'd ditch her straight away. It's bad enough that she smokes tobacco (hello dear

)

You'll end up dragging yourself down trying to help.

Action Jackson · 27-04-2007, 12:02

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Originally Posted by Gavin

We aren't going to pretend it doesn't go on, but we're not going to tell you where to score cheap drugs. Bit of a difference there.

I was only jesting in reference to my router hijacking thread.

So, about this place you know that you can score cheap drugs....

Halcyon · 27-04-2007, 12:03

I would make a stand and put it straight to her....Either she wants to be with you or else she can go it alone.
You've prooved yourself and have shown that you care for her.
If she is not putting anything back into your relationship then why should you hang around.
May be knowing she could loose you will kick start her back into real life.

If she still does nothing, then even though it will be hard at first, try to move on.
You deserve someone better.

Good luck

punky · 27-04-2007, 12:03

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Originally Posted by Action Jackson

I was only jesting in reference to my router hijacking thread.

Oh, my bad...

**Stuart** · 27-04-2007, 12:05

While I don't smoke weed, I've got quite a few friends who do.

Weed seems to affect people one of two ways: They will either just smoke the odd joint and get on with their lives (much the same way as people might smoke cigarettes), or the weed (and it's providor) will become the single most important thing in their life, and may lead them to start ignoring other things (such as friends/family). They may justify this action by telling themselves that their friends and family just exist to stop them having fun.

It sounds like you are in the first category, and your GF is in the second, and may be just using you to sort out her life.

I am not passing any judgements (to do so would be wrong, as I have never met either you or your GF), but if my previous sentence is correct, you'll only get hurt by staying with her.

soup dragon · 27-04-2007, 12:07

no wonder she was late with her course work if she was smoking and hanging out with the pimp next door!!

Barewolf · 27-04-2007, 12:15

Well she seems very ****ed off recently. Ive quit drinking because she didnt like it but also it nearly killed me, i got offered a job recently and took it but was let down by the guy, i took the job so i could help her out financially but also because i wanted to get back in shape, not fat but wanted my muscles back etc.

All this has changed me but she still getting ****ed off at me, she seems to hate me, and is smoking weed more and more and i know what substances can do to you. She says theres nothing wrong with no and then so i said "OK well im stressed i will go have a beer" and she said fine if youre that weak.

Shall i sack her off you think? I just love her so much but i love everyone me, soft **** aint i?

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Originally Posted by soup dragon

no wonder she was late with her course work if she was smoking and hanging out with the pimp next door!!

Well hes 17, dont think he is a pimp.

TheBlueRaja · 27-04-2007, 12:18

Dump her - nobody come round at 12 midnight "for a joint" and doesnt get to play (how do you know this anyway - is that what she tells you or do you know this for sure)

If she's getting grumpy its because she's fecked off with you and cant find a way out so she just gets grumpy until you decide to ditch her. My bet is the neighbours a bit friendlier than you think.

Also, IF he's 17 - what the hell were you thinking at that age?

Xaccers · 27-04-2007, 12:20

Sounds like she resents you for being reliant on you.

Barewolf · 27-04-2007, 12:21

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Originally Posted by TheBlueRaja

Dump her - nobody come round at 12 midnight "for a joint" and doesnt get to play (how do you know this anyway - is that what she tells you or do you know this for sure)

If she's getting grumpy its because she's fecked off with you and cant find a way out so she just gets grumpy until you decide to ditch her. My bet is the neighbours a bit friendlier than you think.

Also, IF he's 17 - what the hell were you thinking at that age?

Well shes 23. i dont know if she would stoop to a 17 year old, but saying that im 32. Maybe she likes older men?

Why the hell would she say she loves me and that though if she doesnt want to be with me, doesnt make sense.

gazzae · 27-04-2007, 12:27

In telling you that he came round it could just be a casual smoke with a friend and she sees nothing wrong with it. Maybe though shes giving you the old double bluff and it was a joint of another kind she was smoking!