Getting Married

STONEISLAND · 25-06-2005, 10:32

May sound a bit daft this is my last resort as getting very down about it.

Partner and I want to get Married before we have baby (shes pregnent) we are skint enougth as saving for baby. Parnents are also skint. The price for wedding and reception scares me as its many many pounds. We have lots of friends and it will cost many thousands of pounds.

I'm thinking of just my partner and I getting married behind family and friends back to save. Is this possible? I'm thinking Scotland? Anyone know of anywhere that will do that?

Anyone have suggestions or advise of how we can do this on a shoestring budget?

Help.

dilligaf1701 · 25-06-2005, 10:34

Go to the restry office and get married there.

That would be the cheapest way.

shredder · 25-06-2005, 10:39

i agree, go to a registry office, wouldn't do it behind your family's backs though, i suspect they'd be upset, and you'll need them once baby's born! just invite close friends and family, they'll understand your money issues, just go for a meal or a few drinks after with them there doesn't have to be a flash reception contrary to common belief that's not essential all that matters is that you, your wife and those you love are around you. good luck and congratulations!

Flubflow · 25-06-2005, 10:46

Lavish reception parties, churches and expensive wedding outfits are not a legal requirement and are entirely optional.
I don't know what you mean about "behind family friends back to save". If you are both over 18 then get married at the local registry office. I think it will set you back anything from ÃƒÆ’Ã†â€™ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã…Â¡ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â£30 - ÃƒÆ’Ã†â€™ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢â€šÂ¬Ã…Â¡ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â£120 or thereabouts depending on what size room you need for guests and whether it is a week day or a saturday.
If you are embarrassed about not being able to afford to lay on the ceremony & celebrations for the sake of family and friends then they can't be very understanding or perhaps you underestimate their understanding (if you bothered to explain your predicament to them).

Jules · 25-06-2005, 10:49

As has been said don't do it behind your families backs as they will be very hurt, oh and it is cheaper to get married during the week and congratulations

Flubflow · 25-06-2005, 10:51

Cancel your cable TV for a start. That would help the savings.

STONEISLAND · 25-06-2005, 10:56

Thanks for kind words at a very stressfull time.
Registry office I like the idea of but my partner is catholic and likes the church idea. The only problem then is suites best man ushers eg eg eg = again money.
Reception venue is a nightmare again down to money.
Which is why I was thinking of doing it behide family as I dont invite them then close friends will not take ofence when they dont get an invite.

Its just a nightmare.
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Originally Posted by Flubflow

Cancel your cable TV for a start. That would help the savings.

No chance

Jules · 25-06-2005, 10:57

Why not wait untill after the baby is born

Sounds like your partner wants a proper wedding

STONEISLAND · 25-06-2005, 10:59

She is catholic wont look good having baby before married?

Bifta · 25-06-2005, 11:00

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Originally Posted by skunk4u

Thanks for kind words at a very stressfull time.
Registry office I like the idea of but my partner is catholic and likes the church idea. The only problem then is suites best man ushers eg eg eg = again money.
Reception venue is a nightmare again down to money.
Which is why I was thinking of doing it behide family as I dont invite them then close friends will not take ofence when they dont get an invite.

Its just a nightmare.
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No chance

Note: If your partner is catholic (like mine) then it's not just a matter of "liking" the church/chapel idea, for a practicing catholic it's a mortal sin to get married outside of the catholic church and the marriage will not be recognised as legitimate by her faith.

STONEISLAND · 25-06-2005, 11:01

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Originally Posted by Bifta

Note: If your partner is catholic (like mine) then it's not just a matter of "liking" the church/chapel idea, for a practicing catholic it's a mortal sin to get married outside of the catholic church and the marriage will not be recognised as legitimate by her faith.

Which is why its a nightmare with costs. As she does want the church wedding.

Bifta · 25-06-2005, 11:03

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Originally Posted by skunk4u

Which is why its a nightmare with costs. As she does want the church wedding.

A religious ceremony doesn't have to cost much, you bung the priest a donation (whatever you can afford) slap some flowers in and invite as many people as humanly possible as you're not paying by the seat.

Jules · 25-06-2005, 11:04

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Originally Posted by skunk4u

She is catholic wont look good having baby before married?

Seems to me you have 2 choices have a rush do before the baby is born or have the full works afterwards, I don't know were the catholic church stands on being pregnant before marrage. Seems a shame as it is meant to be her big day, how does she feel about it is she happy just going off some were and getting married or does she want a proper do?

Flubflow · 25-06-2005, 11:05

Do you actually have to pay a church for a wedding or are you just sort of supposed to make a large donation?

Jules · 25-06-2005, 11:06

They charge