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Originally Posted by kronas
shes a music lover and has mentioned it as something she would like, it came in conversation because i was talking about nokia's phone hard disk player hybrid.
and guys im well aware of what i am doing.
it will be the finale and the very last thing is do until her birthday later this year.
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now don't take this the wrong way.... mostly i am just playing devil's advocate but:
you said the last thing you do until her birthday- you mean you are spending over a hundred quid on a friend for no special occasion?? If i was her i would be extremely embaressed- i think that is far too much to spend on a friend.
Also, if you are spending that much money for no special occasion, what are you going to end up doing for her birthday?!
Scenario for you: You buy an engraved iPod, she is too embaressed when you give it to her and won't accept it. Your feelings are hurt, and you are left with an iPod which is worth nothing to anyone because of the engraving. Maybe this is a reason to have no engraving? Maybe she will accept it because she feels guilty- and that is not a basis for a friendship and especially not anything else.
My first comment of "money can't buy you love" wasn't really substanciated well enough. I used to spend loads of money on my ex because i thought it improved our relationship- in the short term she was pleased with the gifts, of course saying "oh you shouldn't have etc etc" but at the end of the day, gifts and affections from you to her are not going to have any effect on the way she feels about you. And if they do, then i don't believe this is good grounds for a relationship- i don't think someone should need to be persuaded, in whatever way it may be, to return feelings that you have. The final point i will make, is what if she feels like she owes you something because of the amount of money that you have spent- you don't want her to feel indebted to you.
Having said that, you may just be a very generous person, who buys iPod's for lots of people, in which case- fine... lucky girl!!!
I know i sound a bit like a concerned parent- my dad said basically the same things i am saying now when i was in the same position as you. I didn't take any notice at all, but of course because he is a parent, he was right.... but then saying that, you have to learn from your own mistakes.
Oh and in answer to you actual question... if she is a music lover, how about a couple of lines from a song that you two associate with each other??
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